If you’re not ready to have sex, let us know if you need tools or resources on how to stand up for yourself when someone tries to pressure you to do something you don’t want to do.

What is Abstinence?

Abstinence means you don’t have sex. Some people think that means you don’t have vaginal sex. Others believe abstinence includes not having vaginal, oral, or anal sex.

It’s simple. If you don’t have sex, you won’t get pregnant. That takes commitment because having sex (vaginal intercourse) even once at the right time during a woman’s cycle can lead to an unplanned pregnancy. 

Anyone can be abstinent, no matter your age, gender, or whether you’ve had sex in the past. Abstinence works best when both partners agree not to have sex. Talk with your partner before the heat of the moment to decide what activities you will say “no” to.

  • Effectiveness: 100% effective against both pregnancy and STDs, as long as you don’t have vaginal, oral, or anal sex
  • Cost: $0
  • Side effects: none
  • Effort: You have to have commitment and control.
How it Works

Not having vaginal sex is the only sure way to prevent pregnancy because sperm and egg never meet. The only sure way to prevent pregnancy AND the spread of STls is to not have vaginal, oral, or anal sex.

Pros and Cons

There are many benefits to abstinence. Some people wait to have sex until they feel they are ready, some wait to find the right partner, and others want to focus on school, their job, or hobbies. Many people prefer to enjoy their partner’s company without dealing with a sexual relationship.

Avoiding having sex can be difficult for some people. If you plan to be abstinent but end up having sex, pregnancy can happen. Most people will have sex at some point in their lives. If you have sex and don’t want to get pregnant, use protection. If you have unprotected sex, emergency contraception (brand name- Plan B) can help prevent pregnancy up to 5 days after sex. The sooner Plan B is taken after unprotected sex, the more effective it is. 


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